7 years, countless cups of tea, endless rainy walks, and many confused smiles along the way…
Living in the UK has given me more than just a new address. It’s given me a collection of small but powerful lessons about life, humour, community, and culture. Amazing memories — sometimes to cry, sometimes to laugh — but always full of learning.
Here are some of the moments and traditions that helped me feel truly at home 👇
The Meaning of Words
In my neighbourhood, people would say “You alright?”. At first, I tried to answer — until I learned it simply means “hello” And “cheers”. It’s not just for toasts. It can mean thank you, goodbye, or even just a friendly smile.
The Power of Politeness
“Sorry” doesn’t always mean something is wrong. It can be excuse me, passing by, softening a phrase, or simply kindness. And together with “thanks” and “please” these three small words became part of my daily life — I found myself using them more and more, and they helped me feel more connected.
Weather Obsession
Every conversation seems to begin (and end) with the weather. And yes — sunshine can turn into rain in minutes. The golden rule: never leave home without an umbrella!
Sense of Humour
In a bakery, I once asked for bread and the man said “No.” Shocked, I realised it was a joke. British humour is full of irony and quick wit — and once I started catching it, making connections became easier.
Everyday Warmth
On my daily bus, the driver greeted me with “Good morning, my love.” At first surprising, now it makes me smile. “Love,” “darling,” and “mate” are just everyday friendliness.
The Tube
It’s not the metro. It’s not the subway. It’s simply “the Tube.”
Queuing: A National Art
Queuing politely is sacred. Cutting in line? Almost unthinkable.
Pub Culture
In pubs, drinks go in rounds buying, everyone buys for the group. I didn’t know this at first — but it’s part of the tradition, along with Sunday roasts and quiz nights.
Dress Codes
You can wear almost anything anywhere. But at gala dinners, Christmas parties, or Ascot, tradition shines. Dress to impress is alive and my favorite.
Tea as the Universal Answer
Breakfast tea in the morning, Earl Grey in the afternoon. Whatever happens — good or bad — it often starts with: “Shall we have a cuppa?”
Traditional Days
Christmas Jumper Day 🎄, Remembrance poppies 🌺, Boxing Day sales, Sea swimming on Christmas or New Year’s morning 🥶, strawberries in summer 🍓. At first, I only observed, later I tried to join in.
Parks & Outdoor Life
In Turkey, I stayed inside when it rained. In the UK, I put on boots and went to the park anyway. I fell in love with long walks in Hampstead Heath — drizzle included.
Driving in the UK
After years of driving in Istanbul, I had to re-learn here: left-hand side, roundabouts, no honking. Different rules — but surprisingly, I adapted quickly. And I passed the Driving exams in UK at the age of 50.
Black Cabs
Once I experienced a black cab, there was no going back. The drivers’ politeness and knowledge make the ride worth every penny.
Christmas Lights
Everyone loves the lights and shopping campaigns. But the best part for me was the switch-on ceremonies — neighbours gathering to celebrate together.
These may seem like small things, but for me they are big lessons. They helped me not just live here but truly connect and feel at home.
Burçin Ressamoğlu
24 October 2025
